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What We Can Learn from the BDSM Community

by Bunny Hump on November 19, 2019

Author: Jenn Parretta

The original article can be found here: https://www.creativewellbeings.com/blog/2019/3/4/what-we-can-learn-from-the-bdsm-community

When you think of BDSM, what comes to mind? What feelings are brought up for you just by hearing the word? Do you get embarrassed, excited, shameful, angry? I invite you to take notice to whatever you are feeling and keep that in mind throughout the article to see how those feelings change.

Afterall, sexuality is the core of our being, and if we aren’t in touch with our sexuality, how can we truly be in touch with ourselves and our growth? This article isn’t to force you to go out and try BDSM, instead the point is to bring understanding and insight to why so many people enjoy it.

So, I welcome you to learn a quick background into BDSM, some common misconceptions, and the key values of the community. There is also a brief interview with Ireland Rose, who is an amazing model, influencer, and sex worker. I have also included several resources on this post as well, including videos, podcasts, and books.

Enjoy and keep reading below!

Bondage & Discipline

Bondage involves tying a partners limbs together using a restraint, such as rope, handcuffs, or chains. Bondange can mean total body restraint or restraint of a particular limb. Discipline involves the use of psychological or physical punishment, such as whipping, in order to get their partner to behave in a prescribed way.

Model: Ireland Rose, Photo by: Interwoven Images

Dominance & Submission

Dominance and submission involves power play, where there is giving and receiving control of one partner over another. The dom/me is in control of giving the submissive pleasure while abiding boundaries and consent. The submissive yields to the control of their dom/me, and is able to give cues if they want to stop or keep going. A switch is one who switches between dom/me and submissive roles.

Sadism & Masochism

Masochism means that one receives pleasure from being humiliated or hurt (which may or may not be sexual), whereas sadism is “taking pleasure in inflicting pain and/or humiliation upon others, or observing others being hurt” (Rekink).

Before going into the principles of BDSM, I want to cover some of the common misconceptions.

Some people think that those who engage in BDSM might have a mental illness and some of those people even think that it’s an excuse for people to abuse each other. Others may be completely open to the idea, while some might not even know how they feel about it, or really don’t know anything about it at all.

In all reality, BDSM is common and is tied to having a healthy sexuality, knowing what you like, and how to communicate that. Also, generally those who engage in BDSM are well-adjusted and well-educated (Williams, 2006).

You’ve probably heard of the movie franchise “50 Shades of Grey”. It was popular in America and brought BDSM to mainstream media. First and foremost, this book was a “Twilight” fanfiction. Secondly, it is NOT an accurate representation of BDSM.

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Author: Jenn Parretta

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Read the entire article at: https://www.creativewellbeings.com/blog/2019/3/4/what-we-can-learn-from-the-bdsm-community