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A healthy sex life makes the world a better place. Having the BEST sex of your life: Now that is a Goal! Maybe you have started seeing a new partner and you are trying to get better ways to set an excellent scene or maybe you have been with your partner for long and you are hoping to redefine and create a more sensual mood in the bedroom. Whether the problem is small or big, there are ways that you can get your sex life back on track. Your sexual health is directly connected to your emotional, physical and mental health. Either way re-vitalizing your sexual life is not something you can do in a single night. It is something that grows overtime and once changes are made and maintained it gets better.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle and communicating with your partner are the obvious and excellent ways to have a good sexual life. However, there are tips you need to know to redefine your intimacy.
Before you think about spicing or making changes to your sex life, think about the changes that you can do within yourself that will impact your intimacy positively. One area that may affect your sex life are the stresses in your life. Take action and minimize stress in your daily life. It is difficult and close to impossible to relax and get in the mood when you are stressed. This includes emotional, chemical and physical stress. Work out and change your diet if you have to. If you are too shy to be intimate with your partner, practice on building your confidence. Turn your negative thoughts into positive actions.
Be adventurous, sensual and creative. No! We are not supporting having sex in public, but once in a while you should shake things up by doing it in unexpected places. There is something exciting about leaving a trail of clothes all over the house. On the sofa, kitchen, balcony, you name it! (If you do this, do not forget to clean after). Consider creating an environment that supports lovemaking. Consider jazzing the tunes, adding scented candles or perfumes, focus on the feel of silk on the body. Consider taking a bubble bath together. The cozy feeling after the bath can be a great lead to sex. All senses are a great way to add fun and explore each other! Feed each other small bits of sweets like chocolate, silks and feathers on the skin on various parts of the body, different smells like lavender, explore the different sensations to learn more about each other’s bodies. Explore Sex Toys together!
Start with sharing fantasies with your partner. You don’t realize the hype that this carries. It can be about the sex position you find sexy, or a place you have always wanted to do it in. watching porn may seem awkward for many people but it is one way to spice it up. Do not look at it as watching erotic movies, but exploring each other’s desires and interests. Ask him to send you images of something he would like you to wear and go find something similar that feels comfortable for you. Ask her to send you a clip of a scenario she’d like you to arrange. Apply a bit of curiosity, ask questions like; what would it feel like to use a clit vibrator while being penetrated? Or what would a prostate massager add to lovemaking?
The brain is the sexiest organ in our bodies. This is where the intimate desires stem from. This is why talking about sex or dirty talk is always arousing. For women especially, sex begins with the mind. Attraction starts in a part of the brain called the hypothalamus, which is responsible for the production of testosterone. The amygdala controls fear. Your reaction to dirty words or the very subject of the talk depends on these two regions of the brain, but it’s different in men and women. Why do men like dirty talk? A man’s hypothalamus is bigger and therefore, they’re more sexually active and their libido is higher. The amygdala, which allows one to loosen up and reveal secret desires, is activated in the partner and makes them inclined to submit.
Communication with your partner is essential. So Never fake it! If you’re going to fake moan when your partner does things that do not arouse you, you are going to hurt yourself in the long run when it gets to the point where you get frustrated. We are not mind readers. You can be happy if you let your partner know what makes you happy by communicating on what turns you on.
You have probably heard before about Kegel exercises. Both men and women can improve their sexual fitness by exercising their pelvic floor muscles. To do these exercises, tighten the muscle you would use if you were trying to stop urine in midstream. Hold the contraction for two or three seconds, then release. Repeat 10 times. Try to do five sets a day. These exercises can be done anywhere — while driving, sitting at your desk, or standing in a checkout line. At home, women may use vaginal weights to add muscle resistance. Talk to your doctor or a sex therapist about where to get these and how to use them.
Lube is an essential bedside tool. There are several lubes that can make sex so great. You can experiment with silicone or water based and see which works better for you. Adding sex toys to your routine is good. This device can help a woman learn about her own sexual response and allow her to show her partner what she likes. Make sure you use a toy that is fun for both of you.
If an orgasm happens, happens. Take orgasm off the table. One thing you need to know is that never have any sort of goal, like it has to be penetrative or you have to cum. Your goal in getting intimate is to have fun and feel good.
Safe sex is very important. So do not forget to include protection.
Experiment with Sex Toys
There is such a diversity of toys that can be experimented with that it is encouraged in almost all healthy sexual relationships. With the open communication all is possible, but toys can bring greater pleasure for both of you. Go to an adult toy store or if you desire to be a bit more discrete visit our online store and read up on the toys. If the description doesn’t answer your questions you can always Google more information or email mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org we will gladly answer your product questions, and might even have ideas on better toys to try. Just starting out a simple vibrating cock ring could be the simplest answer, and we have already suggested clit vibes, so take a few moments and simply look through the selection. The truth is, no matter the size, creativity and being willing to experiment, are the base of pleasuring each other. You can use a penis extender or penetrate your partner with a vibrator. You can also experiment with double penetration. Other than that, find ways that make you and your partner enjoy, the time spent together.